{"id":6,"date":"2007-10-12T16:34:17","date_gmt":"2007-10-12T20:34:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?p=6"},"modified":"2008-03-19T12:08:44","modified_gmt":"2008-03-19T16:08:44","slug":"unequal-desire-1-try-erotic-massage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/unequal-desire-1-try-erotic-massage\/","title":{"rendered":"Unequal Desire #1: Try Erotic Massage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"margin: 0in 0in 4.5pt\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #cc0099; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">Collaborative Edge\u00a0Sexuality = Finding Win\/Win Solutions Through Negotiating as Equals<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">\u00a0Unequal desire for sexual intimacy? Try massage&#8230;<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"color: #000099; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n<li style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt; color: #000099; tab-stops: list .5in\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">First, set the stage for greater closeness with Instant &#8220;Ahah!&#8221; #8 (p.27) &#8211;Sharing Your Day: <em><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">Instant Intimacy <\/span><\/em>practiced every day (download the free Instant &#8220;Ahah!&#8221;s Mini-Manual at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/\">www.cefocusing.com<\/a> by subscribing to e-newsletter in sidebar or looking under Free Resources Long Articles &#8212; ten simple exercises to bring Listening\/Focusing skills into your everyday life)<\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt; color: #000099; tab-stops: list .5in\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">Make a date three times a week for sexual intimacy (e.g., Tuesday and Thursday at 9:30PM, Saturday around 9AM) &#8211;carry out at least two dates\/week. You can set aside 1 1\/2 hours, but 45 minutes to 1 hour can be plenty of time. <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt; color: #000099; tab-stops: list .5in\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">At your local natural foods store, stock up on massage oils and lotion&#8230;Jason brand is a good one, Lavendar always calming <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt; color: #000099; tab-stops: list .5in\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">If you can, buy a massage table for home; <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/rs6.net\/tn.jsp?t=i7maqdcab.0.t4d5mdcab.ojinlacab.1&amp;ts=S0265&amp;p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.earthlite.com%2F\"><span style=\"color: #003366\">Earthlite portable<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">\u00a0at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.earthlite.com\/\">www.earthlite.com<\/a> \u00a0is sturdy but inexpensive(well, certainly cheaper than marital therapy or a weekend away, and much easier on the back muscles) <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li style=\"margin: 0in 0in 0pt; color: #000099; tab-stops: list .5in\" class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">At least on some &#8220;dates, the person with greater desire and energy\u00a0enjoys massaging the front side of the other person&#8230;start with a foot\/leg massage, erasing exhaustion,move on to the rest of body and, finally, erotic areas&#8230;.at some point, make sure the &#8220;initiator&#8221; also gets a massage&#8230;<\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/rs6.net\/tn.jsp?t=i7maqdcab.0.cpprodcab.ojinlacab.1&amp;ts=S0265&amp;p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lovingsex.com%2Floving_sex%2F601.php\"><span style=\"color: #003366\">Lover&#8217;s Massage<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">\u00a0and <\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/rs6.net\/tn.jsp?t=i7maqdcab.0.dpprodcab.ojinlacab.1&amp;ts=S0265&amp;p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lovingsex.com%2Floving_sex%2F605.php\"><span style=\"color: #003366\">Ultimate Sexual Massage<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">\u00a0from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.lovingsex.com\/\">www.lovingsex.com<\/a> are explicit DVD&#8217;s showing you how&#8230;be warned&#8230;the rest of that website can be overwhelming&#8230;.<\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\">More to come in future editions!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #003366; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><\/span><\/strong><strong><span style=\"font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'\"><o:p><strong>Find links to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?page_id=79\" title=\"Links to Resources\"><font color=\"#b85b5a\">free articles, personality tests, multi-media\u00a0Self-Help training, Classes and workshops<\/font><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/about\/index.php#kathy\" title=\"Dr. Kathy McGuire, Director\"><font color=\"#0066cc\">Dr. Kathy McGuire<\/font><\/a>, Director<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/about\/index.php\" title=\"About Creative Edge Focusing (TM)\"><font color=\"#b85b5a\">Creative Edge Focusing (TM)<\/font><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/\"><font color=\"#b85b5a\">www.cefocusing.com<\/font><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The site of new insights and creative solutions is at the edge of what is already known. 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