{"id":539,"date":"2009-02-26T15:36:23","date_gmt":"2009-02-26T19:36:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?p=539"},"modified":"2009-02-26T15:43:54","modified_gmt":"2009-02-26T19:43:54","slug":"why-cry-part-3-tears-of-wonderjoy-described","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/why-cry-part-3-tears-of-wonderjoy-described\/","title":{"rendered":"“WHY CRY?” PART 3: TEARS OF WONDER\/JOY DESCRIBED"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Tears often come at times of great joy, love of nature, music, spiritual experiences, weddings, births. A number of researchers have asked people to describe their\u00a0positive experience of tears and crying. See “Why Cry?” Part One: Are Women Better At Crying Than Men?”<\/a>\u00a0and “Why Cry?” Part Two: Videos of Thinkers vs. Feelers on the MBTI<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n
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“Tears of Wonder\/Joy” by William Braud\u00a0<\/strong><\/div>\n

In this\u00a0wonderful qualitative research article, \u00a0William Braud\u00a0\u00a0is doing a “phenomenological description” of the experience he calls “tears of wonder-joy,” with many concrete examples. He asked people to exactly describe this experience. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

In a section called “Felt Experience,” (I wonder if the author is a Focuser<\/a>!), Braud describes that participants reported positive affect and “feelings of joy, peace, awe, love, compassion, empathy and acceptance. There are feelings of unity, union, oneness, closeness, connection and immersion.” Read Braud’s article for a complete description of these powerful, positive experiences.
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\nBraud goes on to define “wonder-tears” as an innate biological “empathy indicator,”\u00a0 an indicator of entering the numinous (holy, sacred) and a\u00a0 “signal” toward what is meaningful for each individual, a “sign post” on the path.
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\n<\/strong><\/span>Now, imagine adding Intuitive\u00a0Focusing to go deeper, to articulate these deeper meanings, as I teach in my article, <\/strong>“Finding The Meaning Of Tears<\/strong><\/a>.”\u00a0The Focuser\u00a0can articulate the landscape of their own soul, their “unique blueprint” in the Rogerian sense, using tears of being touched and moved as a kind of moral “compass,” keeping the keel of one’s soul-ship on one’s unique path, leading to action steps toward “carrying forward” on this path of meaning.
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\nHere is the link to the entire article, <\/strong><\/span>“Experiencing Tears of Wonder-Joy: Seeing With The Heart’s Eye” by William Braud<\/strong><\/span><\/a>\u00a0.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tears ARE Transformation, Felt-Shifting Happening
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\nI have found another wonderful phenomenological study of tears, this one, <\/span>“Nine Psycho-Spiritual Characteristics of Spontaneous and Involuntary Weeping” by Rosemarie Anderson<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, Palo Alto, CA. Anderson confirms my own experience that a certain kind of tears IS transformation happening, is our body’s sign that something is changing, shifting at the deepest level, an “integration,” not simply a by-product of the deepest felt-shifting but part and parcel of it. She states that tears may be the border between mind\/body\/spirit, an essential part, perhaps even a causative factor in transformation.
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\n<\/span>See my paper <\/span><\/strong><\/span>“Affect in Focusing and Experiential Therapy”<\/strong><\/span><\/a>\u00a0, which makes the same argument in terms of tears of “cathartic unfolding.”\u00a0
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\nAnderson cites the dissertation of one of her students, Dufrechou, J. (2001). Coming home to nature through the body: An intuitive inquiry into experiences of grief, weeping, and other deep emotions in response to nature. Unpublished doctoral dissertation proposal,\u00a0 Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, Palo Alto, CA. I have not found a copy, but I would love to read it.
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\nThe Fountain and The Furnace: The Way of Tears and Fire by Maggie Ross
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\n<\/strong>AND Rosemarie Anderson cites the book on The Way of Tears that I have been seeking since a friend loaned it to me over twenty years ago:
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Ross, Maggie. (1987a) The Fountain and the Furnace: The Way of Tears and Fire. <\/em>NY: Paulist Press.\u00a0 And a related article: Ross, M. (1987b) Tears and fire: Recovering a neglected tradition. Sobornost, 9(1), 14-23
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