{"id":240,"date":"2008-12-25T22:42:01","date_gmt":"2008-12-26T02:42:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?p=240"},"modified":"2008-12-25T22:42:01","modified_gmt":"2008-12-26T02:42:01","slug":"intuitive-focusing-grieving-is-alchemical-transformation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/intuitive-focusing-grieving-is-alchemical-transformation\/","title":{"rendered":"INTUITIVE FOCUSING: GRIEVING IS ALCHEMICAL TRANSFORMATION"},"content":{"rendered":"

Grieving = Alchemy<\/strong>
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\nAlchemy is about transforming something gross and terrible into gold, the most precious metal. Alchemy needs going through a fire of transformation within a protective container.
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\nGrieving is alchemical. If you can welcome it and stick with it and see it through, you will come out the other end having created something new and valuable.
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\nIn grieving properly, we are welcoming and honoring the memories and meanings of our loss. We are viewing our grieving Self with compassion. We create love and self-love.
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\nC.S. Lewis wrote one of the best, short books about grieving, A Grief Observed<\/a> (this is a link to Amazon listing). He describes, upon the death of his wife, going down into despair, then, one day, coming out the end of the tunnel, being able to really hear, really experience the birds singing again.
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\nPlease see my articles Active Grieving Part One<\/a> and Active Grieving Part Two<\/a> for a philosophy about welcoming grieving and actual techniques for using Focusing<\/a> to enhance the journey through grief. While I used childbearing losses as the example, the philosophy and procedures apply to Actively Grieving any loss — facilitating transformation.<\/p>\n

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Instant \u201cAhah!\u201d Mini-Manual<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/div>\n

Complete Focusing Instructions Manual (17 pages)<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Creative Edge Focusing (www.cefocusing.com<\/span><\/a> ) teaches two basic self-help skills, Intuitive Focusing<\/span><\/a> and Focused Listening<\/span><\/a>, which can be applied at home and at work through The Creative Edge Focusing Pyramid<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Explains Grief Work as a journey of transformation and gives instructions for Active Grieving to speed the process.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[17,10,11],"tags":[562,561,482,160,552,430,744,53,745,85],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/240"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=240"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/240\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":246,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/240\/revisions\/246"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=240"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=240"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=240"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}