{"id":222,"date":"2008-12-21T18:08:45","date_gmt":"2008-12-21T22:08:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?p=222"},"modified":"2008-12-21T18:12:36","modified_gmt":"2008-12-21T22:12:36","slug":"intuitive-focusing-relieving-stress-of-interpersonal-situations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/intuitive-focusing-relieving-stress-of-interpersonal-situations\/","title":{"rendered":"INTUITIVE FOCUSING: RELIEVING STRESS OF INTERPERSONAL SITUATIONS"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Creative Edge Focusing (www.cefocusing.com<\/span><\/a> ) teaches two basic self-help skills, Intuitive Focusing<\/span><\/a> and Focused Listening<\/span><\/a>, which can be applied at home and at work through The Creative Edge Focusing Pyramid<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Do your situations leave a felt “residue” behind?<\/strong>
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\nHave you noticed that real-world situations, interactions can leave behind a “residue” of “something-more-than-words”?<\/strong> Our bodily knowing, our intuitive sensing, lives in the situation and can “pick up” aspects that affect us without giving us words. We might have to pay attention to the “intuitive feel” left behind a while just to be able to say we feel “anxious,” or “Something is not right here” or “What is being said doesn’t match the feeling being generated” or “I want to get out of here!” or “This is not safe.”\u00a0<\/p>\n

Even getting this far, any words at all, may take a first step of\u00a0 “Getting A Felt Sense of a Situation,” paying attention to the “whole thing,” the larger “intuitive feel” under the initial wordless emotional reaction.
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\n<\/strong>Intuitive Focusing<\/strong><\/a> is made exactly for going further to find words for exactly what is going on in such situations.<\/strong> Finding words allows you to take action to change the situation, because now you know what the problem is.
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\nYou will learn to take\u00a0a moment to sit down, “clear a space” inside, and ask an open-ended questions, like, “What is this all about?”<\/strong> Instead of answering with the already-known in your head,\u00a0you will learn to wait\u00a0at least a minute for “the feel of the whole thing” to form in the center of your body. Only then will you begin to\u00a0look for\u00a0words and images\u00a0 that are “just right” in capturing the “intuitive feel” of the situation.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Eventually, you will experience the “Ahah!,” the relief of knowing consciously what your body has been carrying “unconsciously.”<\/strong> Now, you can take action steps to change the situation, clarify the interaction.
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\nPre-Focusing Practice B. Getting A Felt Sense #4: “Finding the Felt Senses of A Situation”
\n(from Complete Focusing Instructions)<\/strong>\u00a0
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\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 4.\u00a0 The “Felt Sense,” The “Intuitive Feel” of a Situation-Allow 15 to 20 minutes
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\nIn this exercise, you are going through a first round of Intuitive Focusing, looking for The Creative Edge, the something-new-that-is-more-than-words about an actual situation during the week that felt unfinished.Although you may have gone around and around in your head, trying to find a solution, to figure out what happened that was strange, now you will set aside that left-brain problem solving and consult your “right-brain wisdom, the bodily “intuitive feel” of “that whole thing.”<\/p>\n

First, we use a Relaxation exercise as a way of clearing some space inside for Focusing, then we look for “the intuitive feel,” the “bodily-felt sense” of the situation:
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\n—Let’s start with The Counting Meditation for initial Relaxation:
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\n—First, stretch—and relax, stretch—and relax, stretch—and relax—-30 sec.
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\n—Now, begin noticing your breathing, just noticing the breath going in—and out—in—and out—30 sec.
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\n—Now, on each exhale, count starting with “1” and continuing, on each exhale, until you reach “9”—1—2—3—4—5—6—7—8—9
\n2 minutes
\n—If you lose track, just start counting over again with “1”. When you get to “9,” start over and count to “9” one more time—
\n2 minutes
\n—Spend a few minutes coming to a peaceful place inside, noticing your breathing—
\n2 minutes
\n—Now, bring to mind an incident or a situation from the past week which feels unfinished, left behind an uncomfortable or confusing feeling—
\n2 minutes
\n—Set aside all your ready-made words or images, and try to get a fresh “intuitive feel” for how you felt in that situation, paying attention to the center of your body, around the heart\/chest area—
\n1 minute
\n—Try to find some words or an image to describe the “intuitive feel” of it, The Creative Edge before words—
\n1 minute
\n—Keep checking until the words or image are just right.
\n1 minute
\n—Ask yourself, “What’s that about for me?” and wait for a felt sense, an “intuitive feel” that is more than words, to form—
\n1 minute
\n—Find some words or an image to capture that “intuitive sense”. You are letting your body’s Wisdom tell you about the situation, instead of answering with everything you already know.
\n1 minute
\n—When you are ready, come slowly back into the room.
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\nIf you wanted to continue with another round of Focusing, you would simply ask again, “And why is this important to me?”, wait to see what comes as an “intuitive feel,” look for words or an image that are “just right,” checking and resonating until something shifts inside. You can find full Focusing Instructions at\u00a0\u00a0\u201cFocusing: Find Out What Is Bothering You.\u201d<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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Creative Edge Focusing teaches two basic self-help skills, Intuitive Focusing and Focused Listening which can be applied at home and at work to increase creativity, decrease stress, resolve conflict, and facilitate innovative problem solving. Here we learn a specific exercise for reducing the stress left from interpersonal situations called “Getting A Felt Sense,” accessing right-brain, intuitive knowledge.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10,112,11],"tags":[481,741,57,160,222,178,744,53,479,560,745,85,756],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=222"}],"version-history":[{"count":17,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":239,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/222\/revisions\/239"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=222"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=222"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=222"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}