{"id":22,"date":"2007-10-23T13:04:38","date_gmt":"2007-10-23T17:04:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/?p=22"},"modified":"2007-10-23T13:04:38","modified_gmt":"2007-10-23T17:04:38","slug":"positive-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/wordpress\/positive-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"POSITIVE PARENTING"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8220;Core Concepts of Creative Edge Focusing (TM) approach to parenting:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>In order to raise children for today\u2019s world, parents must \u201cmentor\u201d their children for independent and flexible problem solving and decision making.<\/strong> \u00a0Children need guides, mentors : Yoda of Star Wars, not authoritarian police man.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Children have natural access to the \u201cintuitive sensing\u201d central to Intuitive Focusing .<\/strong> This inner guide leads to independent decision making, having a \u201cconscience,\u201d and having a satisfying life which fulfills one\u2019s unique \u201cblueprint,\u201d specific talents and aspirations.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Positive Parenting helps children maintain and develop this \u201cinner guide.\u201d <\/strong>Using Focused Listening, \u00a0parents learn to help children find their own solutions to problems.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse are the enemy of developing this inner sensing, this conscience and guide for independent decision making.\u00a0 <\/strong>They exactly teach children to dissociate from their bodies, from their \u201cfelt experiencing\u201d or \u201cintuitive feel.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Educating parents for child rearing is not enough; parents must heal their own \u201cInner Children\u201d before they can radically alter their behavior toward their children.<\/strong> The PRISMS\/S Problem Solving Process, with Core Skills of Intuitive Focusing and Focused Listening, \u00a0is needed for change at the level of Paradigms, cognitive\/emotional\/behavioral \u201cschemata\u201d that determine behavior, emotions, and thinking. The kaleidoscope has to turn\u2026.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Pare<strong>nts can learn to use Focused Listening and Intuitive Focusing in their own relationship. <\/strong>The Creative Edge Pyramid\u00a0includes applications of PRISMS\/S at many levels. Parents can help each other with Inner Child healing through Focusing Partnership turns. They can also use Interpersonal Focusing to resolve conflicts between themselves in terms of parenting styles<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Parenting support groups are absolutely essential. Parents sharing with other parents can help them weather crises in their marriages or single parenthood. <\/strong>The essence of support groups is (a) you are not alone. You are not the only one experiencing these things (b) you are all experts. Using the resources among you, you can solve problems, move mountains. Focusing Groups and Focusing Communities provide self-help, peer counseling models for support groups.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 class=\"yellow2\"><strong>Four Applications of Listening\/Focusing to Parenting<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The <strong>Core Skills of Intuitive Focusing and Focused Listening\u00a0 <\/strong>can be applied to parenting in four different ways, two primarily for your children, and two primarily for yourselves as parents. I call this <strong>Inner\/Outer Parenting&#8230;&#8230;.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Read more, with links to\u00a0self-help skills\u00a0mentioned above,\u00a0and download articles\u00a0on <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;Parents As Mirrors: Preventing Narcissism,&#8221; <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;Setting Limits While Allowing Choices&#8221;\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;Positive Parenting: Listening to Your Self, Listening to Your Partner, Listening to Your Child&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>at Creative Edge Focusing, Interest Area: Positive Parenting, <\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/isthisyou\/3a1d.php\">http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/isthisyou\/3a1d.php<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Three other interesting sites about Positive Parenting:<\/p>\n<p>Jane Nelson (author of <em>Positive Discipline<\/em>, my favorite book on parenting)&#8217;s site, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.positivediscipline.com\/\">www.positivediscipline.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The Parent To Parent Training Program at CHADD (national organization for Children and Adults With Attention Deficit Disorder, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.chadd.org\/\">www.chadd.org<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Resources and training from the Positive Parenting program, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.positiveparenting.com\/\">www.positiveparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Dr. Kathy McGuire, Director<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">Creative Edge Focusing (TM)<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.cefocusing.com\/\">www.cefocusing.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Core Concepts of Creative Edge Focusing (TM) approach to parenting:\u00a0 In order to raise children for today\u2019s world, parents must \u201cmentor\u201d their children for independent and flexible problem solving and decision making. \u00a0Children need guides, mentors : Yoda of Star Wars, not authoritarian police man. 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